Speeding on her favourite scooter
We had settled down into a comfortable and contented school routine with Big Bee. A couple of evenings in the first week of school, I remember asking Big Bee "How's your school?" the moment I stepped through the door. One night, she snapped at me grouchily and said "Why must you know everything about my school?" and refused to tell me what went on in school that day.
My heart was pierced with inexplicable hurt. Is my little girl shutting me out so soon in her life? Am I becoming an obsolete, typical mother whom she cannot relate to? My heart was clutched in the throes of dejected agony the whole night until my Mum gave me the best advice that only a mother can give: "Give her some space."
I was tremendously grateful for Mum's words. That was how she brought both my brother and I up - by giving us immense love and lots of space...whenever we asked for either.
So, at bedtime, I chatted with Big Bee and she bared her feelings. She felt utterly sorry for hurting Mummy, but requested: "Can you not ask me about school the moment you are home?" The exact reflections of my Mum! She is the wisest of mothers indeed!
A month down the road, and here we are - cheery, happy, with Big Bee sharing everything about her school with me everyday. Her friends. The funny incidents she encountered in school. The conflicts. Her deepest worries. We laughed, we gossiped, we brainstormed on tactics to ward off girls who are naughty to her. More importantly, I listen and empathise...without criticism, without judgement, without too much "I know it all" attitude.
It works well. Every night these days, at 8.30pm, she will drag me to her bed and giggled:"Mummy, let's have our chit-chat time now!" And she will tell me all her little secrets.
Motherhood is a learning odyssey indeed.
My poor attempts at bento breakfasts for Big Bee. I usually pack shaped bread with butter for her, who is a fussy eater. The marshmellows are mainly for her friends, who always fight to grab a piece!
3 comments:
The Bento boxes are so cute! I should try it with Dav too, he's also a picky eater.
eh are you sure she will be full with your cute bentos? i think dylan will still be hungry! haha
And i like that you both come up with tactics to ward off naughty girls! sounds fun
Fon: There is a whole treasure trove of bento ideas online! It's amazing how some moms can make such gorgeous bentos in such short time! Picky eaters tend to like Bentos, cos the food are in bite-size morsels and we can make them look cute!
Viv: Yes, Big Bee is a picky eater, unlike Dylan and Little Bee! She is always full and sometimes can't even finish her bread! Sigh.
Yes, confirm must brainstorm to help her protect herself again b**tchy girls, hee hee.
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